When Cupid Gets Old... Celebrating Valentine's Day for the Seasoned Couple
So you’ve been married for a while now… what does Valentine’s Day mean to you as a couple? Crowded restaurants that you don’t want to be in? Overpriced flowers that can wait until next month? The stress of buying a token of love for your spouse that really doesn’t mean too much? Getting a babysitter for a couple of hours? Maybe a card is all you need, or you just need some dedicated one-on-one time.
As we are married longer and longer, we become more logical about wasting money and time. Have you lost the desire to celebrate your relationship with your significant other? No, chances are, you have just become more practical. This year, start a new Valentine’s ritual. Carve out some time to check in with each other about the relationship. Continue to learn about each other and invest in the future of your marriage. Here are some questions that you can start with:
Marriage Check-In
How are you feeling about “us”?
Is there anything that I need to work on for you?
This past year, do you feel closer or further apart from me?
What was a happy memory that we shared as a couple? (Not with children, work, or friends)
What do we need to forgive each other for?
Do you feel loved and secure in our relationship?
What is something that you’d like me to do with you?
Do you feel heard and understood?
Do we have fun together?
What are our hopes and dreams for this coming year?
Valentine’s Day is a holiday to celebrate love, and the best gift you can give to each other is to focus on each other. After the chaos of the holidays, Valentine’s Day falls at the perfect time each year to actually check in with your spouse about your relationship and share some private time together, including chocolate and flowers!